Soccer Coach? Or Anger Coach?

Hey guys sorry for the delay of the post. It’s been a crazy week! But welcome back, I hope everyone is having a fantastic! Or whatever day you might be reading this on. for those of you who do not know me, I am Raegan and I’m one of the owners of this blog. I just want to welcome you and thank you for reading my blog today. And just taking some time out of your day to hear about my buddy Joshua. For those of you who haven’t read my blog, you know that I’m talking on my experiences this summer. And I’m so excited to tell you about it!

Today we’re going to be talking about one of my camps this summer. I was out in Oregon coaching soccer to a bunch of kids. This week was probably one of the hardest weeks in many different ways! 

This week I was confronted with a lot of challenging children and challenging situations. Today, I’m going to be talking about my friend Joshua. Joshua has a twin and a younger sister. Joshua was one of the kids this week I had to keep a close eye on because he enjoyed running, and knew how to get his way, or he would use physical aggression. This was hard to deal with, because I had a lot of other children who like to run also. However, with Joshua, I was his anger coach. If he got angry he would run to me tell me what was wrong then scream and then go back to whatever he was doing. 

Once during camp, Joshua decided to run away and throw things, and kick things as he ran. Just like Oliver I wasn’t going to run after him. So I walked and followed him. When I got to him, he told me that he didn’t want to talk to me because I wouldn’t understand. For those of you who don’t know me personally, I’m a pretty stubborn person. Which resulted in me talking to him until he decided to tell me what was up. He told me he was very upset because he didn’t understand what to do and the coach wouldn’t explain it to make sense. I told him we were gonna do three screams, then go back and try again. As you can guess we both let go, three giant screams and went back to practice. I told him if he needed to scream he could come to me. Which he did a number of times this week. 

However, I still wasn’t the happiest kid even with a coach he could scream at when he is mad. So if he got upset he would make himself “pass out” I could see through it, because I would tell a joke and somehow every time he woke up just in time to laugh.

On the second to last day, something changed in him. Joshua like I said it’s a very aggressive younger boy. And when you get angry he would push back. He didn’t understand the sport of soccer and he didn’t realize you couldn’t elbow people while trying to get the ball. So while he was playing he elbowed another player and the referee kicked him out of the game. This is infuriated Joshua which resulted in him  running off. But I decided just like Oliver I wasn’t going to chase him I was just gonna walk after him. And since we already had a friendship with me being his anger coach I thought it would go well. 

He ran as far as he could. Until he hit the fence. So he couldn’t run any farther and stopped at the fence and just began to cry. I tried to get him to calm down by taking deep breaths with me. But he wouldn’t do that so I gave him time to calm down. And then I said you talk to him. Asking him why he was angry.

 He told me he was angry since the game in the rough didn’t understand that he doesn’t know how to play soccer. 

I told him that I would go talk to the ref and everything would be alright. But he was still angry. 

And I asked him what was wrong once again and he said he was mad because he’s  stupid.

 I asked him what made him think that.  

He told me that his friends from school tell him that and that the boys at school would write him notes and flush him down the toilet. This broke my heart. He broke down in tears heartbroken. 

 I looked at him and I said most bullies are jealous of something that you have. 

He told me there’s nothing this boy would want. He has a small backyard, a gross house. And a mom and  dad are hardly around at the same time and if they are they are fighting. 

This was heartbreak I didn’t realize how good I had it. I mean I know I have it good. But he made it seem like all my problems were so small and I am so much older than him. My problems with where to go to college were so not important compared to what this kid is going through. 

I told him, he does have something the kid doesn’t and it was this camp. You have me help me as a coach who loves you. Also, that I’m sure this kid doesn’t have somebody who can scream it and just have fun with. I said and you were learning about today is Jesus and how much He loves you! I know you might not feel like you’re loved but you’re loved by me and Jesus. And I was able did you tell him all about the love that God has for him and how it will make a difference you guys and how it should be incredible. It started to click and he asked me if he could follow Jesus. I answered of course and he prayed with me and accepted Christ and just like Oliver he cried and gave me a big hug and throughout the whole week, even though it was two days you could see the difference it made in his life. He was much more mature and it was incredible to see you just the love of God work. 

Amen to that! Thank God for such incredible things like that!

Check in next week!

Raegan

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